So my new pastor had us over last night and I got to talk to someone I hadn't connected with in a fair while (we'll call her Tiana*) who is also part of the events team at church...
We got to talking about the event the previous night and why I didn't stay... I was slowly honest about the conversation Gretel* had with me months before and learned that the forcefulness of the approach wasn't intended by the team and Gretel was making it a lot bigger than it needed to be. So Tiana and I talked and said it's not unreasonable for the team to have one dish I could eat, because that's all I needed, but Gretel had communicated that I was expecting all the dishes and everyone to cater for me.
NEVER have I been that inconsiderate because I know my intolerance can be difficult, I just want to be able to eat SOMETHING not everything.
So Tiana and I discussed what that would look like and that it meant just leaving dressing off salads and asking one person (which we know I already sorted) to cook something I could eat.
I think it's Gretel who sees me as inconvenient to cater for and just figures "she can handle this herself".
It just tells me that I need to push her away because clearly I'm a project and I'm too inconvenient to love.
I'm also wondering how much of her forcefulness came across in the quiz night feedback with how much supervision I apparently require.
She feels like a threat to my mental health.
*names have been changed
