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@Former-Member your description of the day is all about everyone else's plans. It's like you're being high-jacked for a couple of days! Maybe tonight isn't the time to answer this, but is there a chance of squeezing in some time for something you want to do? The danger of not doing that is that you might end up so unwell at the thought of what's ahead of you that you can't take part anyway.
If there is more of a balance - only part of the day with your partner's family - you have a better chance of staying well. If your partner isn't very receptive to your reasons, maybe you don't need to explain them anymore. It should be enough that your mental health requires more balance in the day. I guess that's what I was getting at before - why is the compromise seemingly all ours?
13-12-2016 08:26 PM
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So how do you spend Christmas @Kombibob? What choices support your mental health on the day?
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13-12-2016 08:33 PM
Thanks for listening to me whine @Former-Member....
I don't think I made very good sense...
If it was up to me I would go to the beach on xmas day... I don't have my own car anymore & my partner won't let me drive....
it's all complicated...
I had to cancel my psychiatrist appointment due to being broke - I sent her an email & if she offers hospital - I'm going if my partner doesn't stop me....
My paranoia & anxiety has been worse for 3 or more months & I just can't hold it together anymore....
Sorry, for my ramblings & sorry I had no energy to comment on other posts I read..
I will leave now...
Sorry
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I might revisit it too @greenspace. it feels very cathartic to get all my bah humbugness out amongst friends! So nice to not be judged for my attitude 🙂
13-12-2016 08:40 PM
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Thank you @SwearyCyn....
We live in a spearate cabin on the property, but still have to use the house for toliet, shower, laundry... I will use the camping toliet on the day... I will hopefully have some $$ to buy a tv show I want to watch - I think it is mainly my paranoia feeling like my partner doesn't get it, but I can't reason with it - the paranoia also makes me not want to talk about it much - it's too much - Hopefully we will have some yummy vegan food - I hope my partner doesn't insist on buying presents for everyone when I can't even afford to get everything I need...
I' not an assertive person - & it makes it even harder being the mentally ill one in a relationship....
I think I need someone to hug me tight & tell me it matters that I'm alive...
Sorry
13-12-2016 08:41 PM
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Our thoughts are with you @Former-Member. No need to leave and no pressure to respond. You're voicing the very real distress that people feel this time of year and I'm sure we all wish we could alleviate it for you. I hope you find some peace and a sense of safety over the next few weeks. If that means hospital and it's the right thing for you then go for it. But it's not a great reflection on the choices you're facing that this seems like the best option. You have our support when you need it
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