Lived Experience Forum

[Woman30]

Does anybody has a similar situation like me. Since we been living together my husband doesn't like to go out , you know like having a dinner outside or have some coffee or barbecue with friend.

[Phoenix_Rising]

Hi @Woman30, nice to "meet" you.

Did your partner previously enjoy hanging out with friends? A change in behaviour may suggest that there is something going on for him. On the other hand, if hanging out with friends was something he has never enjoyed doing, then it may just be that that is something he doesn't enjoy. I'm single and I've never had a partner (except for a messy abuse situation when I was a young teenager) so I have no words of wisdom at all in that particular regard although I would imagine that the best way to find out if there is anything bothing him would be to ask him.

I hope you are having a nice day.

[getbetter]

Hello @Woman30 my dad was like that for most of his life particularly after his mother died, the only place he would go was the pub for a couple hours in the evening, for me I can distinctly remember starting to withdraw from people and activities when I turned 30 and a gradual decline from then, not saying thats is going to happen with your husband, it's just my experience, are you able to ask him if he is going ok? are there other things you notice that seem unusual?

[utopia]

@Woman30. Did you both go out together before you started living with him? It could be that he thinks he doesn't need to 'wine and dine' you anymore. Tell him the romance doesn't stop because you are living together.
Does he have an MI -a mental illness? Are his moods starting to change? Can you tey and talk with him about this? Or encourage him to see his gp

[Woman30]

Hello @utopia since I met him he has this kind of unusual behaviour mostly when he was stressed. When he is tired he instantly changing his mood. I was thinking it's because he is diabetic . ,🤔

[utopia]

@Woman30 I don't know. I'm not a doctor. Can you look it up on google? Or better still, why not go with him to the doctor. Ask the doctor to give him a full check up.

[Flower88]

That's very interesting because when I started having anxiety and panic attacks I have slowly become withdrawan I'm only 28 too. I don't care for being around people I only want be in my bed 😞 I have to force myself to go and do stuff. It could be abit of depression

[Queenie]

I withdrew from socialising so much around the time I turned 30 also. Maybe there's something in that, who knows? I was always a bit of a social butterfly until MI struck me and these days I rarely go out to socialise. 

@Woman30, I think @utopia has the right idea about having a doctor give him a full check up. There could be a physical ailment causing this such as his diabetes worries, or it could be a mental health issue. There's only one way to find out.

[Shaz51]

hello @Woman30, been thinking of you today , how are you

Hello @Queenie, @Flower88, @utopia, @getbetter

[getbetter]

Hello @Shaz51 I am doing it tough this week, extreme anxiety