Mother's Day (TW)

[avant-garde]

What I find difficult about mother's Day and other family oriented holidays isn't so much the day itself which is sad and painful enough, but the uncertainty around whether people at church will ask "so are you going to go and see..."

The assumption that I'm not a mother or that I have a mother to visit and be with us probably one of the most painful ones.

[Till23]

Oh yes, slightly different @avant-garde , but I had someone ask me just a couple of days ago “Is your husband coming with you” - No because I’ve never had one, plus I could have a wife. I don’t like it when people presume. A better thing to say is “is anybody coming with you” even then it presumes there needs to be two people always.

Many people no longer have living mothers, fathers, children or partners, or they may be estranged, so don’t presume. I will be raising funds for cancer on Mother’s Day this year, as will many others, but some of us won’t be seeing any family after that.

[avant-garde]

@Till23 

I hear you, I wear a fidget ring on my marriage finger so that guys don't assume I'm up for grabs (both figuratively and literally in some cases).

I'll be sorting out my tiny unit with the tv on to keep me busy between church services then get my happy meal after both are done. 

I think a cancer run on mother's Day is a great idea, they should do a prostate one on father's Day.

[Till23]

@avant-garde these are other women asking, or sometimes guys but just in a conversational way. 
You seem to keep yourself pretty busy, which is good. Is a happy meal a weekend treat.

They do have some prostate cancer walks/runs I don’t think it’s on Father’s Day though 

[avant-garde]

@Till23 

Thank you for the clarification. 

I get happy meals when I have rough days, it makes my inner child happy and I like seeing her happy. I also get to draw on the happy meal box and make @tyme smile.

I tend to not eat when I'm sad so it's a way to make sure I do.

[Snowie]

Mothers Day for me comes with mixed emotions. I struggle to find enjoyment in it. I also find it exhausting to pretend that it is a great day.

I love that I can call myself a mother to my 2 beautiful children. They are the reason I keep going.

However, it is also a very triggering day for me too. It is very hard to please my mum, anxiety about choosing the right present, being estranged from family, CSA anniversary.

I also believe that their are many ways to be a mother. They come in many different shapes and sizes.

@avant-garde @Till23 @Patches59 @rav3n @Jynx @RiverSeal @LostAngel @Dreamy @Appleblossom and anyone else

[rav3n]

love the image you shared, sending you some love too 💕💗 @Snowie 

[Appleblossom]

Oh @Snowie 

 @avant-garde @Till23 

Love the gender and health respectful conversation… it can be so hard in this divided world…. To take one side and offend another. How did we come to this? It doesn’t feel like progress. But thank you all on this thread for trying.

Snowie

I am so triggered at the moment about many aspects of mother’s day. Your broad, beautiful images of many types of mothers was a relief and really starts to address the complexity… in a world overly saturated with short phrases, memes… to get attention. 

[Dreamy]

Thanks for sharing @Snowie. I can hear that the day brings alot of mixed emotions for you. 

I do hope the day goes ok for you, remember to be kind and gentle towards yourself. Sending you hugs ❤️ 

@avant-garde @rav3n @Till23  

[rav3n]

definitely agree with you @Appleblossom it's lovely that we can acknowledge those who often feel invisible or unheard on Mother's day, there's always space for them here 💞

@Dreamy hearing that it's a mixed bag of emotions for you too, hope you're gentle towards yourself too 💗