Really wobbly

[Shaz51]

hello @frog, how are you today

[frog]

@Shaz51 I'm ok today. Best day in a while actually. Sorry I take so long to reply. Life gets in the way. How's your day been? I like your picture. I had love birds in an aviary when I was a kid.

[frog]

Hello @outlander@Shaz51@soul @Queenie @Former-MemberHow are all of you going? I'm still majorly wobbly. I really like these forums but I started having the same thoughts that stop me reaching out in my daily life - you're bringing other people down - you're a waste of time and space - etc. But here I am. I've managed to get some time off work, but not yet. It is so draining trying to appear ok when I'm not. I'm feeling a lot of grief. Selling the family home has brought all the other losses into sharp focus. I'm so overwhelmed by the move and I just want the anxiety and sadness to go away. On a practical level I'm not functioning at work or home and now more than ever is the time I need to get myself into gear. Well my forum friends I hope you're facing the day with a bit more courage than me. Take care from frog.

[soul]

Hey @frog - sorry to hear that you're feeling this way. You're not alone in thinking that others don't want to know about or don't care or are even triggered by you airing your problems. And then there can be times when reading about issues that other people are having can bring you down. It's all part of who we are and how we are feeling at the time.

Departing the family home can be a very stressful and sad time. I drive past my childhood home now and then but can't bring myself to check,out the one where I brought up my own children. My ex-husband sold it whilst I was overseas and uprooted the kids after our divorce. They were young adults but even so, it did have some pretty awful implications. 

That's good that you have some time off work. Do you have any plans as to what you might do? Sounds like you need to recharge. I hope the break will have a positive and long lasting effect on you. 

Reach out all you like - that's the beauty of this Forum - there's always someone who cares. 

[soul]

@frog on holiday

[Former-Member]

Hi @frog - i think here on the forums is a space where we can feel free to express how we really are on that day to day basis. Its not bringing anyone down and so many people can relate to each other that we often feel less alone (or at least that is how i've felt it!). So no need to feel guilty or anything like that!
Selling a house is one of those stressful life events and even more so when you have such a long time there (i think you've said you were there for a long time... memory!!) on top of lots of stuff. 😞
I'm also feeling a bit overwhelmed by life at the moment. lots crowding in and work is ... challenging at the moment in so many ways... which i need to get going to! I really hope today is ok for you, and hope that you keep using the forums here,
take care of you!

[Shaz51]

Hi @frog - i think here on the forums is a space where we can feel free to express how we really are on that day to day basis.-- I agree @Former-Member xxxx

Hello @soul, @Former-Member, @outlander 

[outlander]

i agree with what @soul and @Former-Member have said here @frog they have both explained things pretty well in regards to feelings.

i went through the same 'burden' feeling being her and being in life as well but its not true. if people dont want to help they wont and we do and we care

[frog]

Thanks@soul I'm not going anywhere on my time off, except to the new place about 1km down the road. It will mean that I can take the pressure off and intersperse all the packing and sorting with some other things that are not so hard. Self care is the goal! Have a good night.

[frog]

Thanks @Former-Member You're right about seeing other people's struggles helping to feel less alone. I guess I'm still working out the whole give and take nature of the forums. I hope you can take a breather from the overwhelming stuff now and then. I like it when I can be happily distracted, even briefly. Sometimes it's such a relief to get to bed. I have no trouble falling asleep at the moment. Staying asleep can be a bit problematic! On that note, goodnight sleep tight.