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27-09-2017 03:27 PM
27-09-2017 03:27 PM
Case manager leaving
I'm so distraught. She's the one person in my life I trust. I told her stuff I've never told anyone else. She listens to me and understands.
I don't want her to leave. I'm not coping with it.
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27-09-2017 05:55 PM
27-09-2017 05:55 PM
Re: Case manager leaving
Sorry to hear. It is very distressing to deal with the loss of a support person.
Take care of you while you establish new network.
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27-09-2017 08:38 PM
27-09-2017 08:38 PM
Re: Case manager leaving
So sorry to hear your Case Manager is leaving. It's good that you had a really good rapport and connection with her. Hold onto your happy memories and try not to get sad. Hopefully , the new Case Manager will be a good one, they usually are.
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27-09-2017 09:42 PM
27-09-2017 09:42 PM
Re: Case manager leaving
Hi @redheaded
That is really tough - I understand entirely
I have been through having a great case manager - and the one I have now is great too - but when my first case manager retired I was shaken up badly and my Dad died just after that - really tough stuff
What to do now? - I guess it's a case of hoping for the best - which sounds pathetic - but what else? - let me think.
One suggestion is that you don't make the mistake I did - I thought that the next case worker would be on the job and she wasn't - but these things are issues to be brought up with the people who organise these things so in the meantime
Hope but don't expect the new case worker to be the same - just different - and wait and see
You can always talk to us about any problems you have with this - some of us have case workers
And I do understand though I can't know how you are feeling - so in the meantime - all the best and please keep in touch
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27-09-2017 09:49 PM - edited 27-09-2017 11:45 PM
27-09-2017 09:49 PM - edited 27-09-2017 11:45 PM
Re: Case manager leaving
Hello @redheaded
It feels like the rug has been pulled from under you leaving you stumbling to find your footing again when that one person you trust to tell your innermost pain becomes unavailable. For me that is a traumatising life event. Please ring a distress line if that distress grows.
I feel for you. Before your case manager leaves would you be able to tell her exactly how you are feeling and see if she can recommend another case manager whom is equally trust worthy and compassionate where a similar relationship can form in time? It is possible so please don't lose hope. Let us know how you get on.
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28-09-2017 07:41 PM
28-09-2017 07:41 PM
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But I'm really sad about it. I feel like I'll be lost without my old case manager. Not that there is anything wrong with my new case manager but I'm scared.
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28-09-2017 07:56 PM
28-09-2017 07:56 PM
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Hi @redheaded,
I'm going to tag @oR-neB in here too because they posted about the challenge of losing an important support person at about the same time you did yesterday @redheaded.
It super super super sucks when a caseworker, psychologist, GP etc. moves on. This is something that I am super struggling with too. I was with a psychologist for sixteen years. The relationship was complex, unethical, and abusive...but if I could have the time over, I would never have left him. He always told me that he was the only one who would stay, and 27 months and 12 therapists later I can see that he is right.
I am barely coping with the nightmare of therapist shopping now and I know for certain I wouldn't have survived this process 10-15 years ago. I certainly don't have any answers for how to cope with it - it sucks. I really don't think mental health professionals have any idea how damaging it is when they terminate contact with clients (for whatever reason). I think if you choose to work with vulnerable people, then you need to commit for the long haul. If you don't have that sort of commitment, then go work with paper or plants or animals - not human beings.
I super hope you are able to connect well with your new caseworker in time @redheaded and that you are able to find some good professional support @oR-neB.
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29-09-2017 04:21 PM
29-09-2017 04:21 PM
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29-09-2017 04:42 PM
29-09-2017 04:42 PM
Re: Case manager leaving
So sorry to hear your Case Manager is leaving @redheaded , sending you hugs my friend